Coaching with ethos

So, what does coaching with ethos look like?

Executive Coaching is not a new fad or corporate fashion. It is proven to be one of the most cost effective and efficient ways of improving individual performance and business results. The result of a good coaching relationship is very often a marked and measurable increase in work performance and a closer alignment between personal and organisational goals.

Unlike some other companies, we did not set out to "do" coaching. What matters to us is that the methods we use:-

  • Make sense to our client

  • Lead to behaviour change

  • Produce positive results

Our clients typically demonstrate different behaviours in days/weeks and dramatic performance breakthrough soon after.

Executive Coaching with ethos gives you access to:

  • A unique and trusted resource; a confidential sounding board; a supporter of your talents and a motivator for stretching them; an on-call strategist, thought and idea provocateur; someone who challenges your thinking and helps you overcome performance-limiting beliefs and behaviours; a venting partner, a business consultant and collaborator

  • One-on-one attention. Someone who is focussed on you and interested in your performance, someone who wants to understand and help with your challenges and supports you through new, demanding and stretching assignments

  • Coaches that match the level of leadership at which you are operating. If you are a Board member then the coaches provided will be experienced Board members themselves or individuals who are experienced in executive coaching.


Step 1 – Choosing Your Coach

To be an effective and resourceful coach takes skill, patience and commitment. 

The diagram shown here shows a “Coaching Best Practice” guide – and the guide best describes how we operate at ethos. All of our coaches have the Knowledge, Skills and Abilities shown here:-


Before you choose a Coach, it’s worth taking a moment to think through what you want to get from your Coaching experience, and what type of person will help you to get the outcome you desire. 

Are you looking for a “Personal Trainer” - someone who will keep you to schedule, be strong and challenging, and push you to do things you never thought you could? 

Are you looking for a “Mountain Guide” – someone who knows the terrain, has been there before, and has enough experience to help you get to your chosen destination? 

Are you looking for a Confidante – someone who you can have a confidential and trusting conversation with, and who will help you to work through some answers to the issues you’re dealing with? 

Whatever the situation you’re dealing with, taking the time to consider what you REALLY want from a Coach can be a very useful first step. 

At ethos, we take great care in helping you to identify a suitable coach, and our “Chemistry Conversation” is a key part of our selection method. 

Step 2 - The Chemistry Conversation

You could say this is the most important part of the Coaching process – YOU should have a choice in which Coach you work with, and at ethos we have a range of Coaches for you to choose from.

We would always recommend that you meet with more than one coach before you decide who to work with.

It’s critically important that you meet, or at least talk to, two or three prospective coaches and have an informal chat to establish how well you get along.

You don’t want your Coach to be your best friend, but you do want to have a warm, trusting relationship with them, and that can’t happen unless you’ve had a conversation to begin to build a relationship.

If your Coach is appointed to you by someone else and you don't have a choice – sometimes that will work, and sometimes not depending on your style and the style of your Coach, so we think this part of the process is the most important part.

Step 3 - The Contracting Meeting

The first formal meeting between you and your Coach is what we call the “Contracting Process”.

During this meeting, you will be encouraged to take time to consider:-

  • What are your goals? - what do you want to get from the Coaching relationship

  • What types of issues you are dealing with, and the kind of support and challenge you’d like

  • The outcomes you are seeking, in terms of how you want to think and feel differently, and what you want to do differently as a result of the Coaching relationship.

 Equally your Coach will take time to spell out his or her expectations of you:-

  • Frequency of meetings

  • Type of interventions you can expect

  • The confidential nature of the relationship

  • How the whole process will work

  • The benefits you can expect to achieve from the relationship

 If you are in a Corporate environment, it is likely that a part of the Contracting Meeting will involve a 3-way discussion with your immediate line manager, in order to clarify what he or she would like to see.

Step 4 - Coaching!

You will meet with your Coach, in private, for a series of 3 meetings.

The Coaching typically takes place monthly to 6-weekly, and each meeting will last between 2-3hrs.

It’s important to understand that these are not “Teach-ins” – your Coach will not be showing up to each meeting saying, “Today we’re going to look at …….”

The content of each meeting is led by you, and each meeting will begin with your Coach asking you how life is, what’s been happening, what have you been working on or trying to change, and what has and hasn’t worked since you last met.

As a result, your conversation will be “issues led”, and your Coach will provide advice and support as well as “Pokey Challenge” as appropriate. Your Coach will also provide you with resources that you may find helpful, including:-

  • New approaches and new thinking to apply to different situations

  • Video clips, stories and analogies to enhance your understanding

  • Handouts, articles, exercises and activities for you to read and apply to your own situation

  • Weblinks, webinars, online forums etc that may prove useful to you

Step 5 - The Transition

Life is full of transitions and changes, and this is one of them. When you’ve been working with a coach for 4 or 5 months, there will be a period of transition in moving away from your Coach and becoming independent of the coaching process.

In this conversation, the Coach will encourage you to develop strategies to maintain what you have learned, to strengthen what you have already applied, to lock in your learning and create a belief that you can continue to make positive changes for yourself.

During the coaching conversation we focus on:

  • Outcomes - what are the key outcomes you are looking to achieve?

  • Personal characteristics - assessment of your key characteristics, what motivates you, what are your preferences? This builds up a personal profile from which life and career options can be developed and against which they can be assessed.

  • Clearing blockages - what are the barriers to achieving change? For example, do you have beliefs that are limiting you? We work to clear these first.

  • Clarifying your options - what are my options, thinking through the full implication of each. From this, select the way forward.

  • Self-development and knowledge - A person who truly knows themselves is aware of what they bring to each situation, understands their personal limitations and gains confidence as a result. They are also able to "read" and "influence" others better. We call from a wide variety of tools to increase self-knowledge and awareness. These are introduced gradually at the right time for people, to build confidence and capability. 

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